What is family therapy or counselling?
Families can be a source of support, encouragement and love but sometimes relationships within families are put under strain and people can feel isolated or overlooked.
Family counselling can help when siblings aren’t getting on, or when parents and children are going through a divorce or separation. Forming a new family is a challenge and it is at this point that many parents contact us for some support to help everyone settle. Or maybe your found family is looking to implement some new rituals and wants a bit of guidance.
What to expect in family counselling
Before any counselling begins, you’ll be asked to complete an initial assessment to make sure Relate is the right fit for your family. You will meet with a counsellor, who will provide confidential and non-judgemental support, and who will encourage everyone who comes to have their say and to share their feelings, if they wish.
At the first appointment, the counsellor will ask you to talk through what’s happening, and what you’d like to change. You will then work with the counsellor to decide what happens next.
Counselling is a different experience for everyone, and what happens in your sessions will depend very much on what you hope to get out of it, and on the unique needs of your family.
You can expect Family Counselling to help you to build stronger relationships between every member of the family and help you to work together as a team.
How family counselling can help
If you’re having problems as a family, whatever’s causing them, family counselling can help the whole family to communicate better, and to understand and resolve differences.
When families go through change, it can be difficult to learn to adapt. Counselling can help family members to support one another through these difficult times, to reduce conflict and arguments and grow stronger as a result.
Benefits of family therapy
The facts
1 in 6 people aged 16+
have experienced symptoms of a common mental health problem.
45.8 million adults
report experiencing symptoms of anxiety and depression, in any given week.
61% of adults
with mental health conditions don’t access treatment.
How is it regulated?
Family therapy is regulated by UKCP. As well as reassuring the public that practitioners are working within a regulatory system which is monitored by an impartial governmental institution.
Additionally Family therapists are registered and accountable to their board of ethics, The Association of Family therapy (AFT) and/or UKCP registered.
Our statements matter
The evidence has existed for more than 30 years. Research has demonstrated that family work reduces stress in the family and relapse and rehospitalisation rates for the individual for a number of different mental health problems. There are extensive research reviews of this area.
Become a member
Association of Family Therapy & Systemic Psychotherapy (AFSP) members are united by a common focus and a shared mission to deliver excellence in systemic family therapy. By becoming a member you’ll have access the latest thinking and content to help bolster our are of practice.
Student membership
Perfect for undergraduates postgraduates and anyone taking AFT accredited training
Retired membership
Ideal for individuals non-practising therapists who are no longer working or operate as supervisors
AFSP membership
For those passionate about systemic practice and family therapy, seeking a unique membership.
Combined UKCP & AFSP Accreditation
Become a full registered and accredited family and systemic psychotherapists via AFSP. The one-off handling fee covers accreditation and UKCP payment
Frequently asked questions
Family therapy doesn’t work for everyone, and that’s completely okay. If you feel it’s not helping, talk to your therapist — they can explore other approaches, support options, or resources that may be a better fit for you.

Marco & Sarah’s story
“I found I could talk so freely and felt better after each session. Our problems have been solved by being listened to and being explained how each of our actions effect each other”
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How to join the Association for Family Therapy & Systemic Psychotherapy
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